EVERY ARROW...

Falling short vs. Stopping short
  Do we know the difference?

How about this:
The purpose of our potential
     Do we have any idea at all?

Over and over i have ran through scenarios in my head where I am totally doing something great, life changing and all yet mostly I started, ran through a few blocks and just right there and then... I allowed myself to feel like maybe I was not good enough and really, who am i to do this? I would ask myself...


Reception: People may not receive you the way you may have imagined or hoped. But that's not a call for despair...I know this now. I remember how I wanted (still want to) to start a radio talk show here in Ndola. I went to the radio station, got approved. Wrote a million proposals for a 40%sponsorship, just 40%, but not one agreed to help better yet some companies just straight out bailed on me. Never returned my calls or emails or anything... I got down. Started doubting the plan...

So, you see i was invested in the plan. I had put in every amps of energy I had in me and with a the little cent I had, I spent it in the plan. But still, it failed. It didn't happen.... I got heart broken and so i started looking for things to blame, like maybe it's because I Am a foreigner blah blah... And so i decided to take a step away a bit, just to rethink the whole thing, to try a different approach if there is any...

Where am I going with this?
I planned, but still failed. That's heart breaking and the very reason why people decide to not fully invest themselves in their plans, ideas, dreams, visions...fear of failure and the aftermath that comes with it. But, I still say it's better to fall short than to stop short. Now I am here yes hurt, but i can sleep.at night and look and tell myself in the mirror with a smile cause I know i did all i could at the time and when I know better; i will do better... I have zero regrets. I am at peace and still going to get right back at it again...

A different scenario would be where I just wrote it all out, the entire plan but never actually took that first step. I would be here wondering what would have?What could have? Driving me mental enough to loose sleep at night..I would have been.my own enemy in this particular dream. I would even hate myself for not believing in myself, my strengths, my capabilities, my brilliance... i would have stopped short and the pain of stopping short  cuts way deeper than the pain of falling short...

Don't keep a certain percentage to yourself. When you commit, Commit. When you invest yourself into something, do that. Don't keep a certain percentage to yourself as a fall back plan that oh, at least i wasn't 100% into it. Then how will ever know what impact that 20/30/50% of your potential you withheld would have had on your success?

Some one once said something like; "Prepare yourself and don't send a representative of yourself and say if I don't prepare and fail, well I've an excuse, i didn't prepare...but if I prepare and win well am a genius...but if I prepare and fail I just can't take that..."

You start thinking I gave my all and I was rejected. I did every thing and I still was spat upon..I. ...and so you start doubting yourself your potential, your capabilities...
There is nothing worse that what if...could have-should have...moments cause you really can't forgive yourself for stopping short. Yet there is no shame in falling short!

Prepare. Prepare. And be the Queen, that first lady and take failure as a learning curve not as a finish line... only God has a final say upon you and you...you choose to listen either to Him speak it or to the world tell you otherwise.... prepare and learn to trust God. But if you don't even trust yourself, how can you trust Him? If you can't recognise your potential, how can you recognise His?

You have the power of choice...
Do you want to have a forever that's miserable?  You don't have to stay miserable but you can choose to.
Maybe you think that's a bit daft don't you?

But if He said I give you life and death choose life; well then it depends on your definition of life dont it?is it your lung capacity and your beating heart pumping blood to all your vital organs accordingly so you may be here today with good enough consciousness and understanding, and cooking that meal for him every day and going to bed every night? Or what is life to you?  Love, happiness, joy, success, feeling of worthiness and enough...what is life to you? Only you know that answer...

The power of choice....
You have a choice on the purpose of your potential...
Remember, the same words that can build can also break, same words that can heal can harm same words that can give life can also kill... purpose... if you don't find the purpose of your potential and be in control of it; then instead of life you may offer death even to your very own dreams, own vision,  own love life,  own career, own business, own relationships, family.... you can be a ticking time bomb and with proper propergation explode at any instant...

Potential! Channeling your potential is only possible if you know it's purpose cause that will therefore be your compass... so you CHOOSE the PURPOSE  of your POTENTIAL so you may have proper  CHANNELING of all your efforts, energies, preparations, prayers, believes, hardworking,  for you to see what LIFE has in store for you...


Now don't leave a certain percentage behind. Don't live any stone unturned, don't live any arrow on the floor use every arrow. Use EVERY ARROW, every bullet, every ammunition, every missile. If you are at war, use all weapons at your disposal, be artistic and creative and yes EVERY ARROW, so you may not look back and say I STOPPED SHORT.... rather prepare and FALL SHORT cause there is no shame but learning and growth and maturity in all aspects of your life, spiritually, mentally and physically; literally.... in that.
Whenever things get tough, whenever it seems as though impossible, whenever ends don't seem to.meet athe all...keep singing that mantra..."every arrow. I am using every arrow. No. It's not over yet not while it still got some left on the ground....every arrow.." one of my favourite pastors talked about this very same thing once and a good friend of mine thought I was crazy cause he had read this very article before... it's a funny thing hoe God can put the same words in different hearts at different places at the same time. Why is that you ask? I believe it's because every soul needed that word and every soul deserves salvation...

Now back to our conversation; how often have we stopped short instead of taking the risks and rather falling short??? How then will But look at this: if you start the race and finish but don't win, you will know how far you can go, what and where you need to improve, what technique works for you, know your strengths...you may not win the metal, but you will win personally, emotionally, that knowledge you will have gained, the joy that comes with believing in yourself, not doubting your potential, taking that leap of faith in yourself, trusting God see you through it all, believing in His promises... it would not matter when you finished the race but that you finished it. Small mercies. The power of falling short. You may have fallen short of the win but you NEVER stopped short...
They say We are not thankful because we are happy we are happy because we are thankful. So; thank Daddy for His abundant mercies, always and you will be happy... pretty simple hey?? Ohh boy...

Remember, a race doesn't begin on the formation line up, at that race; NO. It starts from day 1 and when is day 1? That's the day you decide you want to be a runner.  Every practice and the pain that comes with it, those healthy meals and healthy life choices you make each day, those sacrifices you make putting in extra hours of work out, missing time with your family, settling for facetime/ vedio calls over late night cuddling and movies with your loved ones...from that preparation and investment form the start, that where the race begins. Now tell me, would you wonna let it all end, just like that? With a single slip and fall and it's all done? After such preparation?...

Do you remember the part where we said people end up leaving all certain percentage to themselves due to fear of the unknown, fear of failure? But here is a question for you; "who told you were destined for failure? How did they weigh those chances? And really how would anyone know about it all? And one last one, between God and a mere mortal, whom would you rather take your chances with?"
You will.never know untill you start. Until you take that risk, you will never know and if you keep reserving that percentage to yourself; you may never know the power of your full potential...

I reckon the question is:Do you have a plan? A drema? A vision? How far are you willing to go with it and for it??

And; what is your OWN race? What are you running? Are you prepared or at least preparing? Are you fully invested or well, still thinking about it?  "..you are either hot or cold or you shall be spat out..."
Remember to use every arrow. Every bullet. Every ammunition. Every missile. Leave no stone unturned. Be invested. Find the purpose of your potential and never underestimate the power of your potential....

The power of choice:
Stopping short
                             Vs.
                                       Falling Short
What's your choice??

As always; you are a Blessing to me and to the world. And doing this for you and with you is fulfilling to me. I only hope it's the same for you...
See you soon but in the meantime... Stay happy and blessed❤❤❤

@Bonze-Bav(seamie)

Queens and First Ladies 👑: the power of choice👊

Hallo there you gorgeous women.

My Queens and First ladies😘
Did you know? You hold the power to choose. #thepowerofchoice

First of all, it's been a while, a long while really since I did any of this... I haven't written to you in yonks but hey; i am still here and still miss you all.😊

Sometimes life can play loosing tricks on you for so long that you end up thinking all you are is all lost or all you are is defined by your losses. You end up giving up on yourself and on God.
You find yourself allowing the world to have the final say about you, on your life, your future, your dreams, your vision,  about who you are and whom you can and cannot be.
Sometimes we let circumstances dictate to us and pain control us. We loose touch with self and and so we end up in a very dark place without any sense of direction nor the slightest idea who we are....

"Ok. Ok. Too many parables Bongiswa... " you said...
Yes; I said, "we allow" these things to control us. Alright, I know this for a fact, we can't know everything that's to happen to us or in our lives or business or relationships or family or any area of our lives really. We cannot. However once it has happened, the rails then come to us. We get that power of choice. So, here is a situation in front of you, it hurts yes, but what are going to do about that pain and anger?

Are you going to allow it to define you or are you going to feel it, yes go through it, heal your heart and then learn from every step you took that lended you here where everything really hurts, so that you may come to see which steps need a by pass or a bigger push the next time you find yourself right back at it?
Or Are you going to allow yourself to be a victim of your past? A victim of your pain, your failures? Tge power of choice...
I don't think if we all understood clearly the meaning of the word "victim" we would find ourselves called/ labeled as such nor would we condone any one calling us that...

Victim:

Have a closer look at the synonyms such as: easy prey/target, fair game, everybody's fool, helpless,  sufferer, casualty....I mean, who would want or allow themselves to be called as such or to feel like that? I read something that said we have been given a choice upon our lives to an extent that we even choose how to feel abouti a situation. My understanding here is that we choose to be angry at words thrown in the air around us, merely because of our perception of them and so we ignore our perception of ourselves, whom we are and what defines us and who defines us. You see, instead we CHOOSE to listen and react in accordance to our preception or the world's perception of them words thrown in the air or at us. 

How many times have you been too angry and then at the end wonder;"what was that all about; really?" It's because in that instant you lost sense and touch with who you are, your own values and philosophis enough to allow some one else's to define you.... we choose how to feel or react towards situations and words, tge problem is we just have assigned that task to our subconscious for so long that we have relinquished our control over it. However once we get in touch with ourselves, it's a working process but yes it is done;- we do get the correct trolley back to actually stand, wait, take that deep breath and think FIRST before saying anything or doing anything or responding to anything or...and in that act, we allow our conscious self to take over and speak or act accordingly and consciously. It is a choice....

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You should be wondering why i call you "first ladies"👑

Well in the real world, first ladies work hand in hand with either Presidents  they are their advisers, their voice of reason and for that, they do understand clearly what it means to hold someone’s life in their hands. They know very well that they cannot live and act selfishly any more for their decisions good or bad, will affect their people, the people who have entrusted their entire being, safety, peace, stability, economy, freedom.... all that fosters their lives, upon them. She has to be the voice of the nation so on error and over their mantra should be "mind over matter..."
They do have to understand the power of choice. The power of that final word. That final say. "Yes; launch that missile and aim it at..." the second they punch in that authorization code and they get a confirmation back, they know exactly what that means and so before hand, there has to be some preparations for the aftermath just as much as there was that moment of silence and thought before the launch in understanding fully what punching in that authorization code would mean. The casualties, the damage, both short term and long term; will this affect the land which land, water and ground and how will that affect productivity of the marine life and agriculture in general, for how long? Then what does that say to our market value, our people our education system and our reputation to the world entirely, our international relations... who are we after we launch this missile?  But still who are we if we don't launch? Not short term only but long term in particular?
 
You see our lives are gorvened by time just as much. You may be angry today for not taking a certain job in a certain company only to be proud of yourself later for the same decision, once you come to see your true purpose or once something better, that you believed was coming has actually come. But yes; regardless of what your family or friends may have felt/thought about you and your decision then, you stood by your principles and believes and so made that decision either way.... when all that you and only you could see is indeed happening; they all look back and say "she knew it... we just were too blind to it".

Short term planning and short cuts don't pay up just as much. They are not the as rewarding and if we don't stand firm and know who holds the final say in our lives we may find ourselves making decisions that will hurt us for the rest of our lives...just to please other people.  The power of choice. Yes they maybe angry today but I will be happy forever or I will live with no regrets... really; can you choose today over forever? Really? Tough lines; yes, but worth it....

Now; my beautiful #Queens, will you take that power of choice that's within you and use it to run your life? Would take back any control that you feel you have lost by just choosing to, by choosing you first? Wait, they told you that's been selfish haven't they? Now tell you what, it's OK to be selfish sometimes especially since ONLY you have can choose what that word means to you in that moment as they through it in the air. We conform and settle for things so unworthy of us just because we are scared or worried about other's opinion over us; what about your opinion over yourself? It's better to have an outside enemy than to have you as your own enemy. Self blame, hate, bushing... it's the worst fight you could ever find yourself stuck in. So; be the Queen God intends you to be. Rule your planet, gorven your world and control your empire. Now; "do you launch or NOT?" Make that choice.... choose you❤

#the_power_of_choice #Queens #firstladies #chooseyou

Always: Bonze-Bav  (seamie)❤❤❤

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