Queens and First Ladies 👑: the power of choice👊

Hallo there you gorgeous women.

My Queens and First ladies😘
Did you know? You hold the power to choose. #thepowerofchoice

First of all, it's been a while, a long while really since I did any of this... I haven't written to you in yonks but hey; i am still here and still miss you all.😊

Sometimes life can play loosing tricks on you for so long that you end up thinking all you are is all lost or all you are is defined by your losses. You end up giving up on yourself and on God.
You find yourself allowing the world to have the final say about you, on your life, your future, your dreams, your vision,  about who you are and whom you can and cannot be.
Sometimes we let circumstances dictate to us and pain control us. We loose touch with self and and so we end up in a very dark place without any sense of direction nor the slightest idea who we are....

"Ok. Ok. Too many parables Bongiswa... " you said...
Yes; I said, "we allow" these things to control us. Alright, I know this for a fact, we can't know everything that's to happen to us or in our lives or business or relationships or family or any area of our lives really. We cannot. However once it has happened, the rails then come to us. We get that power of choice. So, here is a situation in front of you, it hurts yes, but what are going to do about that pain and anger?

Are you going to allow it to define you or are you going to feel it, yes go through it, heal your heart and then learn from every step you took that lended you here where everything really hurts, so that you may come to see which steps need a by pass or a bigger push the next time you find yourself right back at it?
Or Are you going to allow yourself to be a victim of your past? A victim of your pain, your failures? Tge power of choice...
I don't think if we all understood clearly the meaning of the word "victim" we would find ourselves called/ labeled as such nor would we condone any one calling us that...

Victim:

Have a closer look at the synonyms such as: easy prey/target, fair game, everybody's fool, helpless,  sufferer, casualty....I mean, who would want or allow themselves to be called as such or to feel like that? I read something that said we have been given a choice upon our lives to an extent that we even choose how to feel abouti a situation. My understanding here is that we choose to be angry at words thrown in the air around us, merely because of our perception of them and so we ignore our perception of ourselves, whom we are and what defines us and who defines us. You see, instead we CHOOSE to listen and react in accordance to our preception or the world's perception of them words thrown in the air or at us. 

How many times have you been too angry and then at the end wonder;"what was that all about; really?" It's because in that instant you lost sense and touch with who you are, your own values and philosophis enough to allow some one else's to define you.... we choose how to feel or react towards situations and words, tge problem is we just have assigned that task to our subconscious for so long that we have relinquished our control over it. However once we get in touch with ourselves, it's a working process but yes it is done;- we do get the correct trolley back to actually stand, wait, take that deep breath and think FIRST before saying anything or doing anything or responding to anything or...and in that act, we allow our conscious self to take over and speak or act accordingly and consciously. It is a choice....

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You should be wondering why i call you "first ladies"👑

Well in the real world, first ladies work hand in hand with either Presidents  they are their advisers, their voice of reason and for that, they do understand clearly what it means to hold someone’s life in their hands. They know very well that they cannot live and act selfishly any more for their decisions good or bad, will affect their people, the people who have entrusted their entire being, safety, peace, stability, economy, freedom.... all that fosters their lives, upon them. She has to be the voice of the nation so on error and over their mantra should be "mind over matter..."
They do have to understand the power of choice. The power of that final word. That final say. "Yes; launch that missile and aim it at..." the second they punch in that authorization code and they get a confirmation back, they know exactly what that means and so before hand, there has to be some preparations for the aftermath just as much as there was that moment of silence and thought before the launch in understanding fully what punching in that authorization code would mean. The casualties, the damage, both short term and long term; will this affect the land which land, water and ground and how will that affect productivity of the marine life and agriculture in general, for how long? Then what does that say to our market value, our people our education system and our reputation to the world entirely, our international relations... who are we after we launch this missile?  But still who are we if we don't launch? Not short term only but long term in particular?
 
You see our lives are gorvened by time just as much. You may be angry today for not taking a certain job in a certain company only to be proud of yourself later for the same decision, once you come to see your true purpose or once something better, that you believed was coming has actually come. But yes; regardless of what your family or friends may have felt/thought about you and your decision then, you stood by your principles and believes and so made that decision either way.... when all that you and only you could see is indeed happening; they all look back and say "she knew it... we just were too blind to it".

Short term planning and short cuts don't pay up just as much. They are not the as rewarding and if we don't stand firm and know who holds the final say in our lives we may find ourselves making decisions that will hurt us for the rest of our lives...just to please other people.  The power of choice. Yes they maybe angry today but I will be happy forever or I will live with no regrets... really; can you choose today over forever? Really? Tough lines; yes, but worth it....

Now; my beautiful #Queens, will you take that power of choice that's within you and use it to run your life? Would take back any control that you feel you have lost by just choosing to, by choosing you first? Wait, they told you that's been selfish haven't they? Now tell you what, it's OK to be selfish sometimes especially since ONLY you have can choose what that word means to you in that moment as they through it in the air. We conform and settle for things so unworthy of us just because we are scared or worried about other's opinion over us; what about your opinion over yourself? It's better to have an outside enemy than to have you as your own enemy. Self blame, hate, bushing... it's the worst fight you could ever find yourself stuck in. So; be the Queen God intends you to be. Rule your planet, gorven your world and control your empire. Now; "do you launch or NOT?" Make that choice.... choose you❤

#the_power_of_choice #Queens #firstladies #chooseyou

Always: Bonze-Bav  (seamie)❤❤❤

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