woman...

My beautiful women out there...

August is over, a renowned women’s month. Does it end right there? Is that it? I for one believe the struggle, the fighting, the image, the strength, the.....the.....that women ought to do, be, become, feel, live, love and enjoy do not and should not amount to 31 days. As a woman you need to live each day as YOURS. Should always feel that push to do what’s right, to transform lives, to put a smile on your face as you do others, remember; it’s OK to be selfish sometimes hey?? You are a woman EVERYDAY of your entire existence and once you come to appreciate that aspect, wholly then you will know each day is your day to be great, do great things and change the world- by the way; you possess such power within you, hope you know that...

 As of now and the days to come, I would love to encourage all women trapped within situations that make it impossible for them to even comprehend the thought that they are women. Women having being reduced to as little as nothing... I wonna remind you how special you are and let you know that there is a helping hand out there if you ever need one. Exceedingly, I would love to remind you, there is a WOMAN within you; just let her loose, reap the cage to shreds and surprise yourself.... trust me, you will.

 Now here is my letter to you....

 WOMAN…. 

“Good timber doesn’t grow with ease; the stronger the wind, the stronger the trees!” ~Sean Covey. I couldn’t have said it any way better myself.

We all make mistakes in life but the question is, is it wrong? There is way too many reasoning to that question but the most brilliant part is, there is only two options really; YES or NO! We are allowed to make mistakes so as to learn from them but what’s wrong is doing the same mistakes over and over again, then we don’t learn rather let the circumstances around us cloud our judgment.... too scared to take that risk. Tell me; what’s life without risks? Remember; we miss 100% of our best shots in life by not taking risks!

I envy all females who take a leap of faith in diving into love with both feet and both eyes closed, but I have also come apprehensive of one imperative distinction; not all of them are Women. I know that ignites a mass of questions within you...me too, however we will get back to that fact. Love is a beautiful thing, it gives you reasons to wake up the next morning and spend the whole day feeling the drive to live. It gives you hope and assurance that through it all, you have made it already. It’s what makes air worth breathing, sunsets worth watching...it makes all things worth it. However; it’s what people do in the name of love what’s not right. Stay in a relationship because you feel it’s the right thing to do, for you; not because you have to. There are so many things that can make you feel you have to but paramount to all is FEAR.

Fear will always hold you back from doing the right thing for you. You will stay stuck in the shadow of that one person who planted it in you. Fear of what he is capable of doing if you tell him otherwise or do otherwise. Fear of what your life will turn out to be if you leave him, yet you missing the bigger picture of what it has turned out to be while you still with him. Most men use abuse to trick females and most of them use EMOTIONAL abuse. It is not physical, doesn’t leave you all bruised up and blue-eyed. It’s all quiet and still and so the most difficult to deduce. It takes forever before it is exposed and mainly because the victim is made take the blame and each time they feel they want to scream for help, shame, humiliation and low self esteem takeover because this “bully” beat every shred of self respect and self worth black and blue out of you. All you are left with is self-repugnance. Love should NEVER do that for love shouldn’t hurt...

 A Russian writer once said, “I decided it’s better to scream, silence is the real crime against humanity.” Your abuser knows that very well hence why he will give you that guard-FEAR- who is always looking over your shoulder reminding you of how guilty you are and stopping you from screaming. Whoever told you it was going to be easy? It takes more courage and strength to break through your most fears. First; it takes courage to believe than to understand. Your understanding is what is keeping you in this turmoil in the first place but had you believed in the strength and power within you, you would have felt the light go off centauries ago because believe is much greater than understanding. It opens your eyes. it obliterates all doubt. It gets you going, it’s your gas.

Your gut isn’t your understanding or your explanatory mind; not even your own way of seeing things but; it’s your belief jumping out as your seconder in judging the scenario. Keep that in mind. All he did was lower your confidence till you felt worthless and non deserving; for a female, it always starts with appearance. He will make you fell unattractive and unappealing. So tell you what? Look at yourself in the mirror with a smile, even in those tears and restore your esteem by constantly convincing yourself that you are beautiful and you deserve much more till you believe it again-because you are. Do yourself a favor; say it out loud! Now walk the talk and walk tall. Wear a beautiful smile and walk tall. You are strong, smart, abso-feaking-lutely divine and amazingly- obviously gorgeous and that scares the life out of him since he knows he doesn’t deserve you. Again; walk tall!

 That’s what a WOMAN would do. A Woman would break out. A WOMAN would spread her wings and find her way to a better life she deserves. She would know exactly that assessing a situation isn’t staying in it; but a step close to dealing with it and dealing with it means solving it. A problem with most people is taking THE FIRST STEP. Planning is quite easy but action isn’t. However, a woman can do it. A woman knows that in every experience of her life that she stops to look fear in the face, she harnesses strength, courage and confidence. She then is able to say to herself, “I lived through this horror; I can take the next thing that comes along.” She knows that to make a mark, she must do the thing that she thinks she can’t do. Be a WOMAN, stand for whom you are, have no limits as you rise to the top, as you rise above your greatest hold-backs and as you break free of the chains that bound you for so long and stopped you from been the WOMAN you ought to be. Ladies keep in mind, no one is born a Woman; but one becomes one!! So; to all my beautiful ladies, break them heels as we race towards that victory of WOMENWOOD!! Walk tall for You are worth it!!!

 NOTE: I celebrate you every day; WOMEN!! 💕💕🔚🆗

With love ~Bafazini